Ivy league girl likes blue collar guys but it's impossible. help?

I have never really been attracted to the guys who I went to school with (an Ivy league school) and I don't really like that whole "culture" and attitude. The problem is, every time I try to date a "jock" type or an average joe kind of guy (who I am attracted to) they seem to be turned off by the fact I have a degree from Harvard %26amp; some of the work I have done. People say "oh honey they're just intimidated - don't worry - find someone who likes you for you-- " well enough already! The people that tend to like me for me are people that I am simply not interested in. I don't want to marry a doctor / lawyer / professor (which already makes me a freak to some people) - but no construction worker or a cop wants to go near me (except for 1 nighters). What am I supposed to do here? And, am I completely insane?

Ivy league girl likes blue collar guys but it's impossible. help?
How are you reacting to the blue collar guys. Are you going head first as soon as you meet them. If so take your time and play hard to get. Make it a challenge, we(blue collar workers) love a challenge, we have to know you are interested as well. Maybe leave the whole harvard thing out of the scenario, and just talk about little things save the smarts for when things progress maybe they wont be intimidated when they know you personally. I know I wouldn't. Hope I helped, at least a little.
Reply:Some men are intimidated by women who make more money than they do. That is especially true of blue collar men, who may be a bit insecure about their status anyway. Those who aren't intimidated will often assume that a woman like you wouldn't give them the time of day, and they won't consider you for that reason.





Also, look at it from a practical standpoint. I don't know how much money you're making, but let's say it's around $100,000 a year. A man who earns $20,000 a year might feel kind of silly even bothering to show up for work, if he was married to a woman who made that kind of money. Assuming you want kids, the most ideal prospect might be a guy who wants to do the Mr Mom thing, and take care of the kids, while you earn the money.





I'm not going to propose to you myself, based solely on a question you posed on the Internet, but I see nothing in your post that would cause me to rule you out either. There might be any number of reason why we wouldn't be right for each other, but if I'm game, a lot of other guys probably are too. It's just a matter of finding them, and the Internet is a great way to do it.





Even if, after looking at my profile, you would immediately rule me out as a prospect, email me anyway. I think we could have some interesting discussions.
Reply:Be the flame and not the moth.





First don't advertise it like a hotel sign. Let the guy get to know the rest of you and go from there.





Just because their blue collar doesn't make them stupid either. I have my degree.


Personally I'm Military my wife is far more educated than me which doesn't matter at all to me. We were attracted to each other for other reasons.
Reply:I went to a world known school and I'm black. Thing is, my mom wants me to marry a black man "on my level" in terms of education, socioeconomic background and all of that. Thing is, I've dated them and they are arrogant as a %26lt;insert negative word here%26gt;. They know they are a rarity since they are neither in jail or only have h.s. diplomas. They know it and from my experience they act like it. For me, there are more professional level and successful black women out there then men - so if you want to compete the men have a lot to choose from. Me, I'm very much into my goals and career. I want a partner who'd more into me than their job. So in reality I don't even want a man super into his career and all of that. I want my career to come first. I want him to be willing to spend more time with the kids, I want a man not into strict gender roles, but what's best for our family. I date outside of my race and socioeconomic background to my mothers stress and for me - with hopes of happiness. The man who's not professionally 'all that' will be proud of what you've done and even brag about what an awesome and smart woman he has. He'll respect your advice and accept you as you accept and respect him for what he brings into the relationship - not necessarily to your bank account. I don't tell guys about my house or details about what I've done and my education on a first or even second date. Get a feel for the guy and hold back on those things until you really think he's into you for you. It will help him get out stuff if he already likes you a lot and is comfortable with you. Telling him off the bat - he may leave because he thinks you can never take him seriously or that yes, he is intimidated. The type of guys I date...I let them pay for things and always..always let them help me if they ask and I think they can do it (even if I can do it for myself). It makes him feel that in many ways I need him to and that he can still add to the relationship. Good Luck!
Reply:oh hmm...well i'm not intimidated. i'm stupid as a brick, and i'd rely on someone like you to explain the world to me! you'd be like the little birds to my rhino. marry me?
Reply:Honestly, I'm not the sharpest tool in the shed, I'm only going to Tech School for Security Systems. But I'd wouldn't be turned off by someone such as you, in fact, intelligent women who aren't all mature and have no sense of simplicity and the slapstick humor of some things, are very hard to come by around here; though I am mature, I can be quite the spaz sometimes.





You're time will come, just be patient and wait; concentrate on your world first, and then sooner or later somebody will walk right into it, and distract you.
Reply:girl give it time as there is a guy out there for you and you'll find him when you are least looking for him
Reply:No, you're not insane, but you might want to tone down your pedigree a bit. Let a person get to know you before you haul out the Harvard degree, and list of accomplishments; I think you'll have better luck at attracting the kind of guy you want. Good luck!
Reply:dang, i would date you, just those guys aren't right, you are probably a beautiful and intelligent woman, and the guys are probably just some dumb jocks, find somebody who is average yet has some intelligence, or somebody willing to learn more, he will love you and you will love him
Reply:I know I think how you feel. I can relate. One thing I tried to be with blue colar, - trust me it is not easy, they have diffrent mentality and after awhile I couldn't take etheir. I theink problem is that both kind are two onesided for me. So, I realize I am looking for balanced people, - not focused professional or laid-back blue colar but someone have normal balance and living his life based on what makes him tick not outside stuff or have no direction at all